Over twenty years ago, my husband to be asked me once if I would be able to forgive him if he said or did anything to hurt me. I vividly remember shrugging my shoulders and saying ‘Yeah. If you said you were sorry.’
Now, those words rolled off of my tongue very easily, but the act of forgiveness itself is not such an easy task. I am not the world’s most forgiving person. In fact, it takes me forever to get over something.
This brings me to the question of why do we forgive? Do we do it to make the person that has wronged us feel better? Or do we do it for ourselves? And how do we truly forgive someone?
I have met a few people in my life who have the ability to truly forgive and forget. These people are fortunate souls indeed. Hurt seems to roll of their shoulders like water.
Elton John wrote a beautiful song for The Lion King called The Circle Of Life. There is a verse in there that goes ‘Some of us sail through our troubles, and some of us live with the scars.’ As humans, some of have been deeply hurt or even traumatized by something that has happened to us as an adult or in childhood. It has left us emotionally scarred, because we can’t let it go, no matter how hard we try.
Ethan Harrington, one of the main characters in my book, is such an individual. He is a tormented soul trying desperately to lead a normal life under the guise of forgiveness. After All Is Said And Done is about healing and forgiveness. I have learned over the years to let things go. It has not been easy, but it is better than the alternative. Carrying around anger over something that we cannot change can eat us alive. Does forgiving someone change what has happened? Of course not. But I do know that forgiveness can be healing. Sometimes we must go through the stages of anger, grief, and denial before we can do so.
About After All Is Said And Done
Mary Gramlich from the Reading Reviewer wrote an excellent review that sums up my novel perfectly:
I hope this is enough to pique your interest to check out my book.
Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to be a guest here on Reading Romances and thanks to Liz of CBLS Promotions.
A little bit about Belinda:
I have been happily married to my husband (the same man I mentioned at the beginning) for over 21 years now. I have two great sons, two persnickety cats, and 1 unconditionally loving dog who thinks he’s a person.
I am currently working on my second novel, The Monster of Silver Creek, which is due out in December. The follow up book to After All Is Said And Done will be published in 2012.
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The next stop for this tour is at Unputdownable Books.